I call it REAL LIFE like blogging isn’t apart of that. That’s not what I mean – because OBVIOUSLY blogging is apart of our life.
But how much of the people in your personal life – friends, family, co workers etc. know you blog? How many REALLY understand and know what it takes to build, create and maintain your blog? How many read it?
“What happens when your “blog life” crosses over with your “real life?”
There are not many people in my family that know I blog. My husband, obviously. Who is my biggest cheerleader. My kids, my mom and my niece. I don’t have many “outside of blogging” friends – so, none of them know I blog. There are a few co-workers that know I RUN a blog, and one of them even subscribed; whether or not she reads anything is anyone’s guess. But that’s about it.
Truth is – I feed WEIRD talking about my blog to non-avid readers, even avid readers. Not because I am ashamed of it OR this community. Not because I would think it’d be HILARIOUS for them to see the types of books I read on this blog OR discussions that I have – because let’s face it, I read some dirty books and talk about sex like it’s no big thang. Which it isn’t.. But because I feel like I am giving those people who KNOW ME IN REAL LIFE an inside look into my mind and how it ticks, and it’s just.. an unsettling feeling. Because most don’t really KNOW ME, ya know?
I had a co-worker look at my blog and then come to me the next day and say, “Hey I checked out your blog. It’s interesting!” And I thought, “OMG! What blog did he read? PLEASE TELL ME he didn’t see ANY posts about sex! What was the last thing I posted?” Because that wouldn’t have been weird or anything. Hilarious, but weird all the same.
Yet at the same time – I am proud of what I have done with my blog – both of them. I am NOT ashamed of what I do or say on EITHER blog. I have put a lot of hard work and time into this hobby and I have loved every minute of it. So I ask myself:
why don’t I want them to read it?
On the flip side – there are 5 bloggers that I consider close friends – 3 of those my best friends. They know A LOT about my personal life and we talk almost everyday. And books aren’t usually a topic of discussion 8/10 times. I love them and I am so HAPPY that they are in my life. And funny thing is – we don’t interact on each other’s blog often. I read it of course, because I always want to know what they have to say – but it’s different now. Not to say that I don’t want them reading my blog because now we are IRL friends (that just SOUNDS juvenile.) My point is – my blogging life crossed with my personal life and there is NOTHING weird about it. What’s the difference?
On a less personal note – explaining what a “book/review” blog is, is not easy. “So, you talk about books?” Well, yes. But it’s so much more than that and explaining it is hard!
I had one co-worker want details because she thinks her niece would LOVE to start a blog. We talked a little bit about it – how it works, contacts I have, etc. and she says, “Oh awesome, you never have to buy books! My niece would love that!”
So you see, it isn’t just the personal aspect that makes me hesitant to talk about my blog. It’s explaining what it IS, how much work it REALLY takes. It’s explaining that it’s not just TALKING ABOUT BOOKS or getting free books. It’s a hobby, sure. But it’s a passion. One that a lot of people don’t understand.
I turn the spotlight on you
- How do you feel about your friends, family and co workers reading your blog?
- Do you talk about personal stuff on your blog?
- Is there anything you WOULDN’T want someone in your “real life” to see that’s on your blog?
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